Sometimes, I catch myself wondering:
Are we looking for love, or just someone to talk to while we’re on our way to somewhere else?

Dating apps are no longer whispered about. They’re part of our daily conversations now. All it takes is a swipe right, a few clever texts, maybe dinner — maybe more.
But just as quickly, it can end.
No reason. No explanation.
Just silence.

In an era where starting something is easier than ever,
why do endings feel so empty?

Ghosting: The Loudest Kind of Silence

“She vanished after three days of texting.”
“He asked me out, I said yes — then he never replied again.”

These stories aren’t rare. They’re routine.
“Ghosting” — the art of disappearing without a word — has become the go-to exit strategy when things feel awkward, dull, or just too real.

A 2023 survey by Thriving Center of Psychology found that over 30% of singles say ghosting has made them lose hope in dating altogether.

And it makes me ask myself:
Is silence kinder than honesty?
Or are we just too afraid of owning the discomfort we cause?

Swipe Left, Swipe Right… and Maybe Swipe Away the Feelings Too

Sometimes Tinder feels like an endless game.
There’s always a new profile to swipe.
The person who seemed cute in the morning suddenly feels boring by lunch — because someone even cuter just popped up.

Do we actually like someone — or just the thrill of matching?
Dating becomes a hit of dopamine, not a journey. We’re chasing the buzz, not the bond.

According to Forbes Health (2023), 79% of Gen Z users feel emotionally drained by dating apps — frustrated by constant effort without lasting results.

And when everyone might vanish tomorrow,
we start holding back… even before things begin.

Fast Matches, Shallow Meaning

We match quickly.
We chat instantly.
But the emotional depth — the part that takes time — gets skipped.

Some “relationships” end before they even have a name.
Some people become “exes” without ever meeting in real life.

We mistake quantity for connection.
But real connection takes awkward pauses, unfiltered moments, and time. None of which fits neatly in a Tinder bio.

The Mirror Points Back at Me

I’ve felt that dopamine hit too — the rush of having multiple matches, constant attention.
But later, I realized… it only distracted me from feeling lonely.
It never made me feel truly seen.

In a world full of options,
it’s strangely hard to feel like someone’s first choice.

And yes, I’ve ghosted too.
Not out of cruelty — but because I didn’t know how to say, “This isn’t working.”

Dating in this era teaches us to fear emotional effort.
But real depth always comes with effort.

Final Thought: When Love Becomes Disposably Convenient

Using Tinder isn’t the problem.
Wanting connection isn’t wrong.
But maybe we should ask:

Are we looking for real relationships —
or just trying to escape loneliness without responsibility?

In a time where matches happen faster than eye contact,
we forget that meaningful relationships were never meant to be effortless.

Sometimes, what we truly want
isn’t just a “match.”
It’s something that doesn’t disappear.